When men are in love they lose the rational part of their brains and the biggest example of this is the claims they make to their respective sweethearts that’s they’ll do anything for them. Obviously, no one believes that they bring the stars and moon for their beloved for even a minute but there are other promises they make in the deluge of their emotions which are impractical and they cannot keep it most of the time which make them look a bit of a fool later on. This is not to say they their emotions are not genuine or they are liars it is just that they get carried away…sometimes a bit too far. Here are 13 promises men make but they never keep
Promises about not being jealous
Jealousy is a very real emotion and if you really care about someone you are bound to feel jealous or possessive about them if you feel they are giving their time and attention to someone else but you. In fact, if you are not a tiny bit jealous it shows you don’t really care about your special half that much in the first place.
A bit of jealousy doesn’t hurt
A little bit of jealousy shows you are scared of losing your loved one to someone else and the initial bit of jealousy is, in fact, a healthy sign. So please do not make the mistake of ever not being jealous if you are truly in love. But if this is getting a bit out of hand and turning into vicious violent anger and outburst you obviously need to keep a check on it before it finishes your relationship for good. The problem is many men do go overboard with jealousy.
Promises men make about checking out other people
A man promising he would never check out any other women is a pure lie and impossible, even with the best of intentions, checking out a pretty lady on the street is a purely biological reaction and something even women do it all the time without letting it affect their relationship. Of course, ogling and stalking another girl for several minutes or losing interest in you for the time being or trying to gain attention from another lady is unacceptable. However, a split second glance in a crowded mall is nothing to be worried about.
He promises never to judge you no matter what
Love does not mean that individual opinions die once you are committed to each other. Do not forget your boyfriend is a human being but may have his own ideas and conceptions of life. He may not approve or like some of your life habits or choices and being your partner may honestly confide his feeling which is being honest of him. He may not understand why you may be choosing the same skincare regimen or preferring to eat in the same restaurant. Now it is your duty to convince him to think your way or come to a happy compromise without thinking less of each other. If he seems judgy about things sort out the problems with conversations and work it out because your thoughts and preferences are as valid as his. Agreeing to disagree isn’t that bad a thing.
Men make promises about exes
If your boyfriend has been in a serious relationship before, it’s ridiculous to expect a complete severance of the relationship as if that person never existed at all. He may promise never to keep in touch but that’s going to be far from reality. On the other hand, the involvement may be just polite wishes and greetings during birthdays or Christmas and it does not mean that they are trying to get back together. They are being polite that’s all. But if you notice their interaction is increasing a bit more than normal or he is trying to hide the conversation you need to set boundaries. Instead of banning him altogether, rather try to ease the situation by being involved in more honest interactions regarding exes.
Promises to change his ways after a huge fight
When there is an ugly fight a man would do anything to get things back to normal and that involves promising to change his ways immediately which is not possible. Changing a habit is a gradual process and you should be mature enough to expect. So you need to keep reminding his promise and encourage him on his path to change the habits which you dislike and you’ll actually see the improvements. But if you see that his promise was a bluff it’s a red flag and you need to tell him that if he is not even trying it’s about time to say goodbyes.
Promises men make about hiding things
In a relationship, there should be no secrets at all, but sometimes and if your man seems distant and does not feel like talking to you it does not mean he is hiding a secret liaison with some women. Maybe he is going through some work crisis or personal dilemma which he thinks he needs to sort out himself. There are many men who don’t like to burden their partners with their work horrors or bad experiences. Unlike some, they don’t feel comfortable talking about problems at work or friends as it will just create a tense atmosphere at home which is their escape haven. If that’s the case then you must give them their time to unwind and they would share their feelings themselves once they are ready. As a partner, it is our job to make them understand no matter what happens in their life they are always welcome to share it with you as two heads are always better than one at solving a problem.
You’ll be together forever and he’ll always love you
Well, this might seems a little harsh but divorces and breakups are happening every day and trust us all those relations started off with the promise of never going apart. It’s a sad truth of life that love is always not enough to keep 2 people together always, and as life progresses there are many challenges which come up which are sometimes insurmountable and people separate. No one can predict the future but we all start with great hopes. One must never blindly believe this promise neither make it to anyone but promise to make every effort to keep the relation sustained no matter what.
He will always support you financially
Unions are based on not only love but also sustainability and traditionally it has always been a man’s job to bring food on the table and somehow in this modern world this idea somehow still sticks to their brains that they have to take care of you and you should not worry about money at all. But times have changed. In this uncertain world both the partners need to contribute together to manage a household and a future family. So if you are career women you shouldn’t just wrap up everything at the first promise of secure finance as jobs can be lost or expenses can skyrocket where you’ll have to pitch in and maybe it would make him proud that you are independent as always and even ready to support him when he needs you to.
He would help you out in your domestic responsibility
This promise is a deal breaker in many relations. In the beginning, a man promises he would always help and support you in every endeavor even if it means doing the dishes and changing diapers when you are exhausted. But even if they do try in the beginning, their efforts start fizzling out gradually till you realize you are neck deep juggling all the responsibility while he watches his favorite TV show after work. This has to be addressed immediately as he has to take active participation in the chores even if it means chalking a list for them and sticking it to the refrigerator! Yes, men are that dumb most of the time.
He would give respect to your side of the family too
A man promises that your parents and sibling would be like his own and he would always love them as you do. While you must keep that promise to him too and make sure that he does it as well because 9 times out of ten times he would try to sneak out every time your parents are visiting or siblings plan to spend the vacations with you. No excuses must be entertained and if he still does not change his ways next time give him the taste of his own medicine when his parents come for Christmas. He’ll take the hint real fast.
He would make your problems his own too
During courtship, every man promises you would not battle your wars alone and he would always support you but as the years progress somehow your problems seems like whining and complaining while his problems are as big as Mount Everest and you would be a fool to bring your puny problems when he has a world to conquer every day. That’s just his way of belittling you and your issues. The simplest way is to stop acknowledging his problems either and if there is confrontation be absolutely clear if he needs support and empathy he has to start giving some first too. It’s a 2-way process.
He Promises to always respect your choices
A man bravely proclaims he would love whatever you like whether its movies, books or food. But this is not a rational promise as you both are different people with different personalities which attracted you at the first place. No one should change themselves completely for the other as it kills the source of romance. But if it comes to demeaning your choices and interests and making them seem inferior to his you should put your step down and give him an earful about how insulting it is. Still, if this habit does not change then it’s time for serious conversation.
You would always be his priority in life
Although the thought itself is magnificent, again it is not always easy to follow through. It may apply to you as well. When you love someone, your partner’s desire seems to be utmost but after years of marriage or being together, this concern takes the shape of earning more money to provide for you better instead of keeping track of your anniversary or birthdays. There are more important things for him like his career and your lifestyle too for which you are expected to be supportive. But the moment you realize his work has become an excuse for avoiding domesticity and you, it’s time to draw the boundaries again.