Neglect can leave you feeling miserable, but if you want to get through it, here are 13 do’s and don’ts to help you communicate and get through it all.
When you’re feeling neglected by someone close to you, it can leave you feeling lonely and wondering if you did something wrong. It’s important to look at the situation objectively to determine what might be causing their hurtful behavior so you can get past it and strengthen the bond the two of you share.
If you’ve ever felt neglected by the one you love, you’re not alone. It happens to the best of couples, but recovering is all in the way you handle it. Healthy, happy relationships take a lot of work and patience, and you should know there are plenty of things you can do if you’re feeling ignored by the one person who claims to love you most.
Neglect is the worst feeling ever!
According to Dr. John M. Grohol, Psy.D. over at PsychCentral.com, one of the surest ways to ruin a relationship fast is to ignore your partner. In fact, being ignored is often worse than being hated by someone. When someone ignores another person, it essentially says, “I don’t care enough to even waste the effort of anger on you.” If your loved one actively ignores you for extended periods of time, the relationship may be doomed, according to Dr. Grohol.
Before getting all worked up, though, it pays to take a step back and look at things from another perspective. As I said before, there are things you can do to identify the issues and fix them before it’s too late. No one likes feeling neglected, so keep reading to gain a fresh perspective.
What to do to stop feeling neglected
No one gets into a relationship with someone just to be ignored. If that were the case, we’d all go back and relive our high school days, am I right? No, feeling neglected and ignored hurts, so here are some things you can do if you find yourself in a relationship where you are being ignored.
#1 Take a look at yourself and your own behavior first. Before jumping to any conclusions, take a minute to examine your own behavior. If your loved one is ignoring you, it might be due to something you inadvertently did to make them feel overwhelmed or uncomfortable. Maybe you are too clingy or too intrusive. It might just be that your partner needs a little space every once in a while.
#2 Look at the situation from their perspective. It could very well be that your loved one’s lack of attention has nothing to do with you at all. Try seeing things from their point of view. Maybe they are simply busy, or don’t feel well. Maybe they are tired or experiencing a distracting family issue. It’s important to consider all possibilities when you’re feeling neglected.
#3 Slow it down a bit. When you’re feeling neglected, just give the other person a short break. Try not texting or calling them for an entire day. This gives them a chance to miss you and text or call you first. Furthermore, try to stop texting or calling about trivial things, especially if they are going through a tough time or are busy.
By making yourself a little less available to your loved one, you create an air of mystery about you that might lead them to wonder what you’re up to.