#6 Our relationship is easy. Thinking that your relationship should be easy is an unrealistic expectation. Anyone who tells you that their relationship is easy is bullshitting you. Longtime lovers will tell you that relationships are hard work and that they’re built on compromise, trust, and understanding. If you get into a relationship thinking that it’s going to be a walk in the park, you’re in for some nasty surprises.
#7 Disney is right. Critics have written countless papers on how flawed Disney’s way of projecting relationships is. To some extent, they’re all right. Real life is nothing like Disney. Princes and princesses don’t just fall in love and live happily ever after.
Everyone is flawed, and you have to understand that we live in the real world and not a 2-D cartoon world. The sooner you let go of Disneyesque expectations, the sooner you can start working on your real-life relationship.
#8 Make me happy. It is unrealistic to expect your partner to make you happy every minute of every day. They have a life to live and don’t have time to cater to your every whim. Don’t forget that it’s a two-way street, so if you want your partner to make you happy, you have to work hard to do the same.
#9 My way is right. Don’t think that your way is the right and only way. You got into a relationship with another human being and not with yourself, so it’s common sense that they have their own way of doing things. Everything from how they deal with conflict to how they clean the toilets may be different, so learn to embrace the differences and not criticize them.