3 Powerful Ways to Strengthen All Your Relationships

3 Powerful Ways to Strengthen All Your Relationships

Certain people have a remarkable talent for translating science into practical wisdom. Chris Peterson, a positive psychology researcher who passed away in 2012, was one of these people. If asked to take the mass of research on well-being and boil it down to the most significant finding, he would say, “Other people matter.” So much of our happiness is contingent on others, whether that means savoring a meal together, laughing while reminiscing over old photo albums, or performing an act of kindness to help someone in need. Not allowing us to miss the full picture of this message, Chris often reminded his students not only that other people matter for us, but also that we are the “other people” who matter for others.

3 Powerful Ways to Strengthen All Your Relationships

In honor of his message, here are three tips for building the quality and quantity of your relationships with others.

Pinpoint Their Strengths

How often do you stop to think about what makes the people you love so great? Part of Chris’s monumental work in positive psychology was the development of the VIA (Values In Action) Classification of Character Strengths, a collection of 24 human virtues valued across cultures and time. They include creativity, hope, bravery, and fairness. Everyone has a set of signature strengths (find out yours by taking the assessment on Happify), the ones they use most often and most naturally, and research shows that using your signature strengths in new ways boosts well-being. Take a look—a good look—at the people you care about and identify a few of their signature strengths. When you see someone act from a strength, name it. And then give them opportunities to use it more.

Plan an activity for you and a friend in which you both get to use your signature strengths. An example might be cooking a meal from a different culture where you take the lead on researching the recipes (curiosity) and your friend documents the night with photographs (appreciation of beauty and excellence). There are endless possibilities as long as you keep strengths the focus and inspire each other in the process. Encouraging others to be the best of who they are naturally brings out the best in us.

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