#4 Communicate. If you don’t communicate how you feel, what you want, or what you expect, then how do you expect anyone to understand you and fix whatever it is they have done to upset you in the first place? No matter how many times you read your horoscope or visit a physic, you’re probably not going to end up with a person who can literally read your mind.
The more you talk to your partner about how you feel, the more likely they’ll be able to understand you and empathize with you. They’ll know what you want and what you can offer, and this allows them to act according to what they think is best for your relationship. And if your partner understands the relationship better thanks to better communication lines, they’re less likely to intentionally hurt you by cheating.
#5 Trust your partner. Just because you’ve been cheated on before, doesn’t mean that every potential partner in the entire world is a cheater and out to hurt you. Would you like it if every person you dated assumed you were a gold digger, just because you share some traits with a gold digger they dated before? No, you wouldn’t like that.
Unless someone gives you a reason not to trust them, trust them! It’s really that simple. You can’t control people and what they do, but, despite this extremely cynical world we live in, you can always hope that giving someone your trust makes them realize that it’s for keeps, and that they shouldn’t do anything to shatter it.
#6 Stop assuming the worst. The saying is true, “never assume anything because you end up making an ass out of ‘u’ and ‘me.’” Pessimism is exhausting, honestly. If we all went around on a daily basis worrying about what could go wrong instead of enjoying all the great things that actually do happen, what would be the point of waking up every day?
Negativity like this may make you think that you’re just bracing yourself for the worst possible scenario, but in reality, you’re just setting yourself up for failure. Who would want to date someone who always thinks of how things can go horribly wrong? Once your partner feels the gloom of your pessimism seeping into the relationship, then it won’t be a huge surprise if they try to find someone who focuses more on the bright side.