Ever feel like you’re being taken for granted in the relationship? Watch out for these 16 signs in your partner’s behavior and you’ll know for sure!
Love, as happy and blissful as it seems, can still be a minefield of confusions.
If you’re unaffectionate, your partner may think you don’t love them.
And if you’re too giving, your affections and your giving nature could be taken for granted.
Do you ever wonder why some people get taken for granted so easily, while a few others are never taken for granted?
The truth is, not all of us get taken for granted.
And almost all the time, it’s just a few kinds of people who get taken for granted all the time, by everyone around them!
Why do lovers start taking each other for granted?
Every relationship always starts with insecurities and confusions.
Does my partner really love me? Am I good enough for my partner? Will they ever leave me?
Even if both of you are madly in love with each other, you may find these questions floating in your mind every now and then.
And it’s this insecurity that makes you try harder to woo them all the time, even if both of you are dating already.
You want to be reassured in love, because uncertainty just drives you crazy.
But as the first few weeks turn into months or years, you may start to feel more reassured in love. And you may start to realize that your partner really does love you, and may not leave you for anyone else.
And it’s at this point, that lovers start taking each other for granted. It’s at this point of time when gestures and expressions turn into expectations and demands. When you start to believe your partner would never leave you because they’re so much in love with you, your mind starts to take it easy and you may not try hard to woo them or impress them.
How do lovers start taking each other for granted?
Now not all lovers take each other for granted. But most of us do, even if we don’t realize it. Ever since both of you started dating, you may be doing something special for your partner all the time, like planning a surprise birthday party or cooking them a hearty four course dinner each time they come home.
And at some point of time, your partner may turn this romantic gesture of your affection into an expectation.
If you plan an elaborate birthday party for your partner every single year and surprise them with a big gift on each birthday *you save for months to afford it!*, and one birthday, you decide to take it easy and just take your lover out for dinner at a fancy restaurant, you may still find that your partner may be slightly annoyed with you! And that’s a clear case of being taken for granted in the relationship.
So does that mean you should stop being affectionate to your lover?
No, it only means you need to start letting your partner know just how much of an effort you’re taking each time. Don’t be a martyr. You may think being a silent martyr works because your partner would understand just how devoted and loving you are someday, but it doesn’t always work that way.
Your partner may realize it at times, and at other times, they may not. And you’d just end up disappointed. When you’re being taken for granted by your lover, it all starts with your overwhelming silent love, and your partner’s lack of reciprocation and increase in expectations.
You have every right to expect your partner to treat you with the same love and affection that you shower upon them. And the day you start to believe that you need to do more to win their affection or to hold on to them, that’s the day they’d start to take you for granted.