It’s easy to forget you’re responsible for your own happiness when it seems like nothing is working out the way you want it to despite your best efforts. But there’s always something you can do to get out of whatever rut you’re in — just make sure you aren’t doing these 10 things to sabotage your own shot at happiness:
1. YOU EXPECT YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS TO MAKE YOU HAPPY.
We’ve all heard the advice that you have to be happy on your own before you can be happy in a relationship. While dating someone you really like can seem like the best thing that has ever happened to you, it can’t be the only good thing you have going on in your life. Put that much pressure on a relationship and it’s doomed to fail.
2. YOU’RE AFRAID TO BE ALONE.
So you have the relationship, but it’s not exactly going very well. Instead of ending it and embracing the single life, you stick it out because for some reason you think being with someone is inherently better than being alone, no matter what. It’s not.
3. YOU PLAY THE VICTIM.
Instead of taking responsibility for mistakes you’ve made and recognizing times you could have done something differently, you blame the world for everything bad that ever happens to you. That means you have no sense of control over your own life and you end up feeling like you couldn’t change your circumstances even if you wanted to.