My publication thus far has discussed what emotional intelligence is, where it appears in the workplace, and how to strengthen your EQ. What I would like to explore in this post is the characteristics of an individual with plentiful EI and what it takes to get there.
According to Lindsay Kolowich, author of the blog “19 Signs You’re Emotionally Intelligent (And Why It Matters For Your Career),” there are indeed 19 elements indicating EI which are split into four “clusters”. These categories are self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management.
- Emotional Self-Awareness: “You have a solid understanding of your own feelings and emotions, your strengths and weaknesses, and what drives them.” By reflecting on how you feel inside, you are more adept to recognize how others around you feel too.
- Accurate Self-Assessment: You fully understand your morals, values, and goals while also seeing the path you are headed towards. You know your limitations and boundaries but this plays to your strength as you can disregard nonsense to achieve what you are seeking faster.
- Self Confidence: “You operate from competence and know when to rely on someone else on the team. You’re willing to talk about yourself in a frank, non-defensive manner.” You know what you can and can’t do. You know what you are good at but won’t toss it in another person’s face. You’re determined that you will succeed but you don’t go about it in a way that’s arrogant or puts others down.