Searching for a means of wooing your woman? Ditch the “bad boy” vibes and instead take up these 10 rules of being a contemporary gentleman.
Some girls like them bad, some like them nerdy. However, there is one breed of a man that will forever have a soft spot in the hearts of ladies: the gentleman. True gentlemen, as some ladies lament, are a dying breed. While it was once the gold standard of being a true man, the art of being a gentleman is slowly fading from the modern guy’s consciousness. Finding a real man, then, is a rare treat.
Now, before you go out and ride on a thoroughbred stallion like some period drama character, the ways of a true gentleman actually differ from what Hollywood tropes suggest. Nope, you don’t need to dress like a dandy and sport a phony British accent, like you came straight from a Jane Austen novel. Being a gentleman is something you must strive for and should not be treated like an act, where you can go on and off character.
How to be a contemporary gentleman
Before you complain, being a gentleman has a lot of benefits, besides its usual impress-the-girl usefulness. First, it draws people to you. People prefer a gentleman to a cad. Second, it adds character, which can greatly increase your chances of getting promoted at work, while earning respect from your colleagues and subordinates. That’s three birds with one stone.
#1 Be mindful of how you dress. A true gentleman bears his clothes properly in every situation; both in the presence of his rowdy mates and in the presence of a lady. No, this doesn’t mean that you have to spend all your money on signature clothes to nail the preppy look. The key is to dress appropriately and tastefully.
Make sure you do not wear ill-fitting, dirty, stained, or bedraggled clothes. In choosing what to wear, always consider if it’s appropriate for the occasion, if it’s comfortable, and if it makes you feel confident. In that particular order. Dressing yourself slovenly even in high-end, new clothes won’t make much difference.
#2 Adopt good posture. Posture reveals a great deal about your personality, so it is advisable for guys to practice maintaining proper posture. Gentlemen should always stand straight, sit properly, and maintain a steady gait when walking. Not only does it look good, it exhibits confidence and self-assurance. A guy who stands hunched and walks awkwardly can be perceived as indecisive and insecure.