Relationships aren’t always going to be fine and dandy 100% of the time. When you need to voice your concerns, here’s how you should go about it.
When a person realizes that he or she is no longer happy in a relationship, they will start to think of ways in order to fix the problem. When they can’t do it on their own, they will turn to their partner and voice out their concerns. As easy as that sounds, not many people use that option.
A lot of times, people allow the relationship to deteriorate to the point of no return, just because they were too afraid to tell their partner that they were unhappy in the first place.
Why are people afraid to talk to their partner?
A person can become unhappy in a relationship for a number of reasons. It differs from person to person and can be caused by different circumstances. When you arrive at a point where you realize that you can’t find the joy in your relationship anymore, you start to think about why it’s happening.
When you realize that you can’t fix it by yourself, you start to question whether the relationship is going to survive. This is the time when you’re supposed to talk to your partner and tell them how you’re feeling.
Many people refuse to talk about their feelings not because they’re afraid. It’s usually because they feel confused and don’t know how to handle the situation. It’s not just about what they want. Once they start to air out their concerns, it will become a problem for both of them.
The consequences of speaking up
Although it’s helpful to talk about your problems, telling your partner that you are dissatisfied with your relationship can be very emotionally taxing. Some people refuse to tell their partner their feelings because they fear that they might hurt them. Others will try to push it aside thinking that the problem might go away on its own.
Most of these doubts come from their assumptions about what will happen once they tell their partner the truth. It’s understandable that their partner will feel hurt or even lash out once the reality of the situation hits them.
Sometimes knowing what exactly will happen can be scarier than not knowing at all. Are you capable of telling the truth no matter how much it might hurt your partner? Are you prepared to face the consequences in case they decide to break up with you after you tell them?
So many things can happen once the subject of your connection and happiness is questioned. It all depends on what you want to do with this information. Do you want to tell your partner you’re unhappy so you can fix it? Or do you want to tell them because you want some space? Before you decide to tell them how you feel, you have to think about what you want in the long run.
There’s no easy way to tell your loved one that you are not happy. The point of being in a relationship is to be with another person for the sole purpose of growing together and enjoying the moments you have together.