#2 Make a connection. Find a way to create a connection with her. When you ask her about herself, did you find something similar about both of you? If she says she likes to paint, pretend like you’re impressed and tell her that you’ve always wanted to paint but the last time you tried meddling with colors, all you did was tip a palette of paints on your neighbor’s clothes!
Or if she says she works at a particular organization, say something like, “Aah, I’ve heard so much about that place. I hear the cafeteria has the best cappuccino!” Make anything up as long it sounds funny or makes her feel proud. Even if it’s wrong, it’ll lead to another fun conversation.
#3 Tell her about yourself. Always make a connection first and talk about yourself later. In the first few minutes of the conversation, she may not be very interested in getting to know you better. But by building a connection and making her like you by being funny or genuinely interested in her, and then telling her something about yourself, she’ll pay attention to what you have to say. And she’d be very interested to know more about you too.
#4 Appreciate her company. Tell her something friendly and yet, flattering. “I’m glad I met you here, I was getting so bored of just standing here with all the wrong people until you came along.” You’re not hitting on her, and yet, somehow you’re complimenting her for the great company she is.